About

Hi all and welcome to Obstreperous Expressions! We are glad you stopped by to poke around and hope that you will be coming back to read more!

First off why the name? Well as abused women and one of us being a non-custodial mom for so long, we felt that this name gave substance to why we are writing here. We refuse to be ordered about anymore, and we are going to be loud about it. We are strongly objecting to the control that has been forced on to both of us in the past by abusers and family court systems which allowed the abusers to continue controlling us. Here is where we have decided to express our objections!

We also would like for others to express their objections here as well. Leave us a comment and link to us. Send us your stories as well. We can post them up anonymously for you and even help you with scrubbing out identifying information if you need to do that. We are both using aliases (like you hadn't noticed that already) to both protect ourselves and others.

We plan for this to be a place where other victims of domestic abuse and the justice system can come to realize that they are NOT alone in this and gain the confidence they need to start finding the resources that can help. We want to empower victims to start objecting to the control being placed up on them. Even if a victim can not protest and object outwardly at first, even if they can't verbalize for fear of retribution; they can begin making plans to do so in the future!

We are taking every effort to verify any resource that we share here. We still will not be held accountable for the actions of said resources but we are not going to share things without first checking them out within our abilities. So, for instance, we will not just do a search on "domestic violence resources" and give you the top five results; if it were that easy you could do that for yourself.

We also understand that many will not agree with everything we have to say. We also don't care. As everyone is entitled to their own opinions; we have ours. Healthy debate is good for all; verbal attacks are not! I'm sure that the two of us do not even agree on every single aspect of what is being discussed here. Both of us do however believe firmly that if one is not part of a solution then that one is part of the problem.

This is our way of being part of a solution!
Ashley and DenomShi